Enriching lives in the communities we serve

Health Care Providers Making a Referral or With Service Questions Call: 888-525-7742

If you are a Family Member or Loved One With Questions about Home Care Call: 888-660-5772

Is Your Loved One Trying to Prove to You that She’s Still Got It?


Elder Care in Marshall MN: Is Your Loved One Trying to Prove to You that She’s Still Got It?

You mentioned to your loved one that you wanted to hire elder care providers for her and she started an argument. What gives? Your loved one probably isn’t ready to consider herself “old” and definitely doesn’t want you to think she is.

Starting Fights without a True Reason

You may find that your elderly loved one vents her frustration by picking arguments with you. The arguments may not even be related to what is actually going on. Your loved one is feeling defensive and is looking for any way that she can assert herself and prove to both you and to herself that she can stand on her own two feet. These arguments might have the added benefit in her eyes of “running you off,” even for just a short time.

Keeping You out of Specific Situations

Your loved one may suddenly start “banning” you from certain situations. You may find, for example, that you’re no longer welcome to help her work out her banking issues or that she doesn’t want you to go to the doctor with her any longer. This is another way to assert herself and to maintain some control over her own life.

Attempting to Do Things She Shouldn’t Be Doing

Another way that your loved one may try to assert her independence is to do things that you’ve advised her not to do or that you’ve kept her from doing. She may see this as a perfect way to show everyone involved that she can handle anything that life can throw at her, no matter what. Of course, this might mean that your loved one gets herself into situations that can be harmful to her.

Hiding the Results of Those Attempts

If your loved one is arguing with you, keeping you from being as involved as you’d like to be in her life, and following that up by doing things that she really shouldn’t be doing, chances are very good that she’s got some evidence of those attempts. There might be dings on the car or unexplained injuries that she’d rather not talk about. Looking for those results can help you to figure out what she’s been up to.

Your loved one might find that having a more democratic approach to assisting her feels more comfortable. Try including her in decisions rather than expecting her to accept decisions.

If you or someone you know needs elder care in Marshall, MN, contact Prairie River Home Care. We provide quality and affordable home care services for many fragile or senior members in the communities we serve. Call us at (888) 660-5772 for more information.

Lori Seeman

Lori Seemann has a background in nurse management, hands-on critical care and business management. Her clinical expertise and knowledge of information systems had been instrumental in ensuring operational consistency in all branch offices. She led efforts that resulted in implementation of a new home care computer system that is utilized for staffing, scheduling, clinical records and billing. Lori continues to seek opportunities to improve caregiver productivity through nurse utilization of a unique point of care laptop computer system.