The worst part of feeling so stressed out when you’re a caregiver can sometimes be not knowing why you’re even feeling that way. Here are a few things that might be contributing.
You’re Doing too Much on Your Own.
Caregivers often keep adding tasks and responsibilities to their task lists without thinking about how it will impact them down the road. Before you realize it, you’re suddenly overwhelmed and overworked and you have no idea how you’ll get everything done. Getting help from family members can help, but it might not be consistent. You might need to hire elder care providers to get the help you really need.
You’ve Got a Lot of Roles to Fulfill.
You’ve got more dimensions to you than just being a caregiver. You might be a parent, an employee, a spouse, or all of the above. Because you have so many different roles to fulfill, you can wind up feeling torn in different directions. Finding a way to create a better balance, especially by getting help with caregiving duties, can be the solution you’re looking for.
You’re Pushing Your Feelings Aside.
When you’re a caregiver, you might not feel as if your feelings are all that important. It’s also possible that you worry that your feelings are wrong or bad, especially if they’re negative. Feelings in and of themselves aren’t bad. They let you know that there’s something else going on that you need to deal with or resolve.
You Think You Have to Be Perfect.
Many caregivers are so intent on doing everything just right for their aging adults that they don’t realize the immense pressure that they’re placing on themselves. This pressure can cause you to lose sleep, to stop eating right, and to be too hard on yourself. Caregiving is not about being perfect. It’s about doing the best that you can with the resources that you have.
You Never Have Downtime.
Because you’re requiring so much from yourself to properly keep going as a caregiver, it’s quite likely that you’re not giving yourself much, if any, time away. Guilt can drive this, too, because it’s a very real fear that the second you step away something will happen. Start taking an hour or so away from caregiving and gradually work up to a day at a time. You’ll be better able to cope with the stress of being a caregiver.
When you can get to the bottom of what is causing you the most stress you can start taking steps to relieve that stress. It’s tough to do this kind of self-exploration when you’re deep in the throes of everything that is going on, so give yourself time to reflect.